The Other I

November 20, 2017

Independence Day

Filed under: Just Stuff — theotheri @ 4:31 pm

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A friend of mine just told me about her niece.  She walked into the room and announced to her parents sitting there:

“You’re not in charge of me anymore.”

“Oh”, said her parents, “who is in charge now?”

“I am,” she said.  “I’m in charge of myself.”

She is three years old.

Teaching our children to be responsible for the consequences of their own actions is one of the great challenges of parenting.  But this kind of statement of independence usually comes in the teenage years, often accompanied by an unwillingness to listen at that point to any  parental advice.

But can you imagine rearing a child who makes this announcement at the age of THREE?

Good for her!  I wish her the very best of a very productive and satisfying life.  Not necessarily easy.  But fulfilling.

(Oh, and I do hope she learns at an equally-surprising young age that if she’s in charge, she is responsible for the consequences of her decisions — even when they aren’t what she was planning on.)




  1. :-))) This is a new one! Are they really taken seriously at 3 and thereabouts?


    Comment by tskraghu — November 20, 2017 @ 4:37 pm | Reply

    • Well, I suspect it depends on what you mean by “taken seriously.” One does take a 3-year-old seriously, doesn’t one? Come to think of it, one takes the apparent wishes of a newborn seriously. But not in the same way one would take an adult seriously. I suspect this 3-year-old is going to challenge all the child-rearing skills of her parents.

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      Comment by Terry Sissons — November 20, 2017 @ 4:45 pm | Reply

      • the mother is in for some interesting times!


        Comment by tskraghu — November 21, 2017 @ 6:08 am | Reply

      • I couldn’t agree more! Perhaps you would call it multi-management in your field?


        Comment by theotheri — November 21, 2017 @ 7:32 am | Reply

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