The Other I

About the Author

Since early childhood, I have had double vision.  Each eye focuses just a little differently from the other, so I have two built-in views of everything.  There is always the other eye to suggest there might be another way of looking at things.

It might be one reason why I have found other points of view and cultures so fascinating.  When I was six, my father told me some people in China ate bird nests, and I immediately wanted to go there.  Not that I was searching for an alternative culinary experience, but I wanted to meet the people who seemed so different. 

By the time I was seven, I’d decided how I was going to escape from the farm in Ohio where I was born and go to live in New York City where people were unconventional and came from all over the world.  At eighteen, I did go to New York, but it was to join Maryknoll, a group of American Catholic missionary nuns who worked primarily in underdeveloped countries.  After nine years, I realized I was too independent to be a nun.  I left the convent and returned to New York City where I earned a Ph.D, became a cognitive psychologist, and married Peter, an English academic born in Yorkshire. 

I never did go to China, but one might think I’d had enough cultural adaptation for a lifetime.  Not only does Peter look at the world from the sometimes inscrutable perspective of a man, he looks at it from the perspective of an English man.  We lived in New York for twenty years where we were both university professors, and where I reached the erroneous conclusion that I understood people better than he did.  Then we moved to Spain where Peter understood the English expatriate community with significantly greater accuracy than I did, but where I read Spain with the insights of my Catholic upbringing.

We returned to Yorkshire to care for Peter’s parents, then moved to the Lake District.  That was when I discovered I really didn’t understand the English.  I’ve been married to an English person for some 35 years, and I’m still surprised.  I’m even surprised when I’m surprised, which happens on a regular basis.

Today, my husband Peter and I are both retired academics and are living in a little village five minutes outside Cambridge, England and an hour out of London.  As an American it feels culturally akin to living with the way my eyes work.  Looking at things as an American, they are in a slightly different focus than the view seen from the English perspective. 

Since coming here, I wrote my latest book, The Big Bang to Now,  which is a brief look at all of time.  It’s written for the reader who wants, as I did, to learn the difference between 100 thousand, 50 million, and 13 billion years.  It’s available on Amazon.com.  My “serious blog,” www.TheBigBangtoNow.wordpress.com keeps the logical part of my brain working.

This blog, on the other hand, is a possibly fuzzier look at the world through my double vision.  It’s not always logical.  But it’s mostly how I think when I’m not being strictly rational and organized.  In other words, “the other I.”


8 Comments »

  1. Hello, I’m from Cambridge – Ontario, Canada however… anyways I was reading a lot of your posts on depression, and recently I’ve been realizing that I myself might be a victim of depression. I’ve lost interest in friends, though I feel betrayed more than anything. I’m going to college next year for Radio and hopefully I get a girlfriend there. I appreciate your posts and interest in depressive people and the relationship you’re in with Peter. Momentarily I had to stop from crying while reading your well-written and detailed posts about the subject of depression. However, as I continued reading I began to love your character, and your care. I appreciate your work in a way as if you were by my side literally, caring for me… It’s hard to explain, anyways, I thank you and I love your posts!
    As an additional thing, personally, I love to write poetry and soon, I will start working on my novel(s) – eventually… anyways, my poems have been coming quick to me and they relate to my feelings/observation of reality as something else that most imagine it to be. Recently; however, as I have mentioned before about depression, my poems are beginning to adopt some depressive characteristics – that I realize – the same with my behaviour; the depression I cannot take hold of and bury away :( Thank You again – keep up the good work!

    Comment by Mike — June 11, 2008 @ 10:22 pm |

  2. “and soon, I will start working on my novel(s) – eventually…”

    Ah! The wonderful Peter Cook and Barry Fantoni cartoon. Two men in conversation. Man 1-”I’m writing a book”. Man 2 – “Neither am I”.

    Good luck with it!

    Comment by Junker Barlow — June 13, 2008 @ 3:19 pm |

  3. Well, I do have plenty of ideas and whenever I have the spare time I can start actually writing the book. I’m turning 18 later this year so I’ve got a lot of time to work on my writing skills, and the detail/story of the book itself.

    Anyways, I’m feeling better today. It’s weird how much can change in a few days. Variable emotions constantly swayed that make myself think about yesterdays and the bad days, though today it’s not so bad; however, a better day.

    Comment by Mike — June 14, 2008 @ 12:12 am |

  4. hi–i dont know your name and i wont take the time right now to look back—i have medical appointments today and am rushing.

    but i am most certainly taking this time to say a huge resounding thank you.

    just looked up osteopenia, found the book you reviewed. it appeared full of clear info: and written in the seductive, repetitive fear-targeted language of infomercial pimping. so i googled a book review and got yours.
    my very best regards,
    Susan Parker
    boston, ma

    Comment by Susan Parker — June 26, 2008 @ 3:37 pm |

  5. Thanks too for the great review and info on osteopenia. As mentioned by Susan Parker, I loathe the infomercial pimping so common on the web, so finding your blog was a godsend. The acid/alkaline balance subject can be very confusing and frustrating. The food lists vary considerably and I think individual metabolism plays a part too. Will just have to keep trying. Best regards, Norma Baltimore, MD

    Comment by baltimoreusa — January 2, 2009 @ 6:21 pm |

    • Thank you to you and Susan Parker too for your encouraging comments. I am hugely gratified that so many people seem to have found my blog postings helpful. (Maybe it’s because I really am not trying to sell anything.)
      The more I learn, the more I realize how complex the problem of osteoporosis is. Add that to the fact that individuals themselves run the gamut of preferences and personal discipline when it comes to treatment, and it seems to me almost impossible to do anything but learn as much as one can, and then take responsibility for whatever decisions one makes for oneself. The Other I

      Comment by theotheri — January 2, 2009 @ 9:50 pm |

  6. I’ve been reading your blog today and can’t wait to finish reading your all your entries. Thank you so much for blogging about your life and all the things that you blog about. My experience in a religious order only lasted for a few months into my novitiate. However, it is such a wonderful feeling to find someone who’s gone through the whole religious/ex-religious phase. It’s not like there is a support group for women who must leave their religious habit behind and step into the reality of the world again outside the convent walls. I’m so grateful that you are looking back and writing about your story with an academic mind. It helps me sort out the confusion in my own head, which only four years ago was even more confused as a Franciscan novice. My goodness what a journey! Thank you again for writing about yours.

    Comment by jooliedee — March 24, 2009 @ 7:50 pm |

    • Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it hugely. It sounds as if your own story, although at this point a little shorter than mine, would also be deeply interesting. I entered the convent in an age that was different from today’s in many significant ways. I often think that the voyage in and out of the convent must be different today too.

      Comment by theotheri — March 24, 2009 @ 8:26 pm |


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